10 cara elak dari mengahwini pasangan yang salah

By: Dr. Nafisa Sekandari & Hosai Mojaddidi

Source: Mental Health 4 Muslims

There is a right way and a wrong way to get to know someone for marriage.  The wrong way is to get caught up in the excitement and nuance of a budding relationship and in the process completely forget to ask the critical questions that help determine compatibility.

One of the biggest mistakes that many young Muslims make is rushing into marriage without properly and thoroughly getting to know someone.  A common myth is that the duration of a courtship is an accurate enough measure of how compatible two people are.

The logic follows that the longer you speak with someone, the better you will know them.

The problem with that premise is that no consideration is given to how that time is spent. Increasingly, young Muslim couples are engaging in “halal dating,” which is basically socializing with each other in the company of friends and/or family. This includes going out to dinner, watching a movie, playing some sport or other leisure activity, etc.  Depending on the family or culture, conversations are either minimal & chaperoned or worse, unrestricted and unsupervised. When you consider these  limitations it makes one wonder when exactly, if ever at all, would the critical conversations take place?  Unfortunately, for many, the answer is never and they live to suffer the consequences.

If you or someone you know is in the “getting to know someone” phase,  the following guide offers advice on exactly what to look for and avoid:

1) Do Not Marry Potential: 
Oftentimes men consider marrying a woman hoping she never changes while a woman considers marrying a man she hopes she can change.  This is the wrong approach on both accounts.  Don’t assume that you can change a person after you’re married to them or that they will reach their potential.  There is no guarantee, after all, that those changes will be for the better. In fact, it’s often for the worse. If you can’t accept someone or imagine living with them as they are then don’t marry them.  These differences can include a number of things such as ideological or practical differences in religion, habits, hygiene, communication skills, etc.

2) Choose Character over Chemistry: 
While chemistry and attraction are no doubt important, character precedes them both. A famous quote follows, “Chemistry ignites the fire, but character keeps it burning.” The idea of falling “in love” should never be the sole reason for marrying someone; it is very easy to confuse infatuation and lust for love.  The most important character traits to look for include humility, kindness, responsibility, & happiness. Here’s a breakdown of each trait:

• Humility: The humble person never makes demands of people but rather always does right by them. They put their values and principles above convenience and comfort.  They are slow to anger, are modest, and avoid materialism.
• Kindness: The kind person is the quintessential giver. They seek to please and minimize the pain of others. To know if a person is a giver, observe how they treat their family, siblings, and parents. Do they have gratitude towards their parents for all that they’ve done for them? If not, then know that they will never appreciate what you do for them. How do they treat people they don’t have to be kind towards (i.e. waiters, sales associates, employees, etc)? How do they spend their money?  How do they deal with anger; their own anger and their reaction to someone else’s anger?
• Responsibility: A responsible person has stability in their finances, relationships, job, and character.  You can you rely on this person and trust what they say.
• Happiness: A happy person is content with their portion in life. They feel good about themselves and good about their life. They focus on what they have rather than on what they don’t have.  They very rarely complain.

3) Do Not Neglect The  Emotional Needs of Your Partner: 
Both men and women have emotional needs and in order for a partnership to be successful those needs must be mutually met. The fundamental emotional need of a woman is to be loved.  The fundamental emotional need of a man is to be respected and appreciated.  To make a woman feel loved give her the three AAAs:  Attention, Affection, & Appreciation.  To make a man feel loved give him the three RRRs:  Respect, Reassurance, & Relief.  It is the obligation of each partner to make sure the other is happy and this extends to intimacy as well. As long as each partner is fulfilled by the emotional needs of the other, the intimate relationship will thrive.  When a man takes seriously the emotional needs of his wife she will feel more encouraged to fulfill his sexual desires. Likewise, when a woman takes seriously the emotional needs of her husband he will feel more encouraged to give her the affection, love and appreciation she wants from him. Working together in this way encourages both giving and receiving.

4) Avoid Opposing Life Plans: 
In marriage you can either grow together or grow apart. Sharing a common purpose in life will increase the chance that you will grow together.

• You must know what the person is into. In other words, what are they ultimately passionate about?  Then ask yourself, “Do I respect this passion?” “Do I respect what they are into?”
• The more specifically you define yourself, i.e., your values, your beliefs, your lifestyle, the better chance you have of finding your life partner, your soul mate, the one you are most compatible with.
• Remember, before you decide who to take along on a trip, you should first figure out your destination.

5) Avoid Pre-Marital Sexual/Physical Activity:

• Recognize that there is incredible wisdom in why God has ordered us to refrain from intimacy before marriage; they are to prevent great harms as well as to keep sacred what is the most blessed part of a relationship between a man and a woman.
• Aside from the obvious spiritual consequences, when a relationship gets physical before its time, important issues like character, life philosophy, and compatibility go to the wayside. Consequently, everything is romanticized and it becomes difficult to even remember the important issues let alone talk about them.
• Intellectual commitment must be established before emotional or sexual commitment.

6) Avoid Lack of Emotional Connection:  There are four questions that you must answer YES to:

• Do I respect and admire this person?  What specifically do I respect and admire about this person?
• Do I trust this person?  Can I rely on them?  Do I trust their judgment?  Do I trust their word? Can I believe what they say?
• Do I feel Safe?  Do I feel emotionally safe with this person?  Can I be vulnerable?  Can I be myself?  Can I be open?  Can I express myself?
• Do I feel calm and at peace with this person?

If the answer is “I don’t know, I’m not sure, etc.” keep evaluating until you know for sure and truly understand how you feel. If you don’t feel safe now, you won’t feel safe when you are married.  If you don’t trust now, this won’t change when you are married!

7) Pay Attention to Your Own Emotional Anxiety:
Choosing someone you don’t feel safe with emotionally is not a good recipe for a long-lasting and loving marriage.  Feeling emotionally safe is the foundation of a strong and healthy marriage.  When you don’t feel safe, you can’t express your feelings and opinions.  Learn how to identify whether you are in an abusive relationship.  If you feel you always have to monitor what you say, if you are with someone and you feel you can’t really express yourself and are always walking on eggshells, then it’s very likely you are in an abusive relationship.  Look for the following things:

• Controlling behavior: This includes controlling the way you act, the way you think, the way you dress, the way you wear your hair/hijab and the way you spend your time.  Know the difference between suggestions and demands.  Demands are an expression of control and if the demands are implied, than you must do it or there will be consequences. All of these are clear indications of abusive personalities.

• Anger issues: This is someone who raises their voice on a regular basis, who is angry, gets angry at you, uses anger against you, uses put downs, and curses at you, etc.  You don’t have to put up with this type of treatment.  Many people who tolerate this behavior usually come from abusive backgrounds.  If this is the case with you or someone you know, get help right away.  Deal with those issues before getting married or before even thinking about getting married.

8) Beware of Lack of Openness In Your Partner:  Many couples make the mistake of not putting everything on the table for discussion from the onset.  Ask yourself, “What do I need to know to be absolutely certain I want to marry this person?” “What bothers me about this person or the relationship?”  It’s very important to identify what’s bothering you, things that concern you, and things you are afraid to bring up for discussion. Then you must have an honest discussion about them. This is a great way to test the strength of your relationship. Bringing up issues when there’s conflict is a great opportunity to really evaluate how well you communicate, negotiate, and work together as a team.  When people get into power struggles and blame each other, it’s an indication they don’t work well as a team.  Also important is being vulnerable around each other. Ask deep questions of each other and see how your partner responds.  How do they handle it?  Are they defensive?  Do they attack?  Do they withdraw?  Do they get annoyed?  Do they blame you?  Do they ignore it?  Do they hide or rationalize it?  Don’t just listen to what they say but watch for how they say it!

9) Beware of Avoiding Personal Responsibility:
It’s very important to remember no one else is responsible for your happiness. Many people make the mistake of thinking someone else will fulfill them and make their life better and that’s their reason for getting married.  People fail to realize that if they are unhappy as a single person, they will continue to be miserable when they are married.  If you are currently not happy with yourself, don’t like yourself, don’t like the direction your life is going now, it’s important to take responsibility for that now and work on improving those areas of your life before considering marriage.  Don’t bring these issues into your marriage and hope your partner will fix them.

10) Watch Out For Lack of Emotional Health and Availability In Your Potential Partner: 
Many people choose partners that are not emotionally healthy or available. One huge problem is when a partner is unable to balance the emotional ties to family members, the marriage ends up having 3 (or more) people in it rather than two. An example of this would be if a man is overly dependent on his mother and brings that relationship into the marriage; this is no doubt a recipe for disaster.  Also important to consider are the following:

• Avoid people who are emotionally empty inside.  These include people who don’t like themselves because they lack the ability to be emotionally available. They are always preoccupied with their deficiencies, insecurities, and negative thoughts.  They are in a perpetual fight with depression, never feel good, are isolated, are critical and judgmental; tend to not have any close friends, and often distrust people or are afraid of them.  Another clear indication about them is they always feel their needs are not getting met; they have a sense of entitlement and feel angry when they feel people should take care of them and they don’t.  They feel burdened by other people’s needs and feel resentment towards them.  These people can not be emotionally available to build healthy relationships.
• Addictions can also limit the level of availability of the partner to build a strong emotional relationship.  Never marry an addict.  Addictions are not limited to drugs and alcohol.  They can be about addictions and dependency on work, internet, hobbies, sports, shopping, money, power, status, materialism, etc.  When someone has an addiction, they will not and can not be emotionally available to develop an intimate relationship with you!

Additional Points to Consider:

1. The fact is no one looks 25 forever.  Ultimately, we love the person we marry for more than their appearance.  When we get to know someone we love and admire, we’ll love them for their inner beauty and overall essence.
2. Once we find someone, we consciously or subconsciously want so badly for it all to work that we decide not to question or see what is clearly in front of our eyes: they were rude to the waiter, speaks ill of others, is rude to you, etc.  We don’t stop to ask, “What does all of this mean about their character?”
3. Never separate someone from their family, background, education, belief system, etc.  Asking clear questions can clarify this.  Ask questions like, “What does it mean to have a simple lifestyle?” “What are your expectations of marriage?”  “How would you help around the house?” Compare your definition with theirs.
4. Be flexible.  Be open-minded!
5. Giving in a happy marriage should not be confused with martyrdom.  It should be about taking pleasure and seeing the other person as happy because of your connection with them.
6. Morality and spirituality are the qualities that truly define someone in addition to beauty, money, and health.  The morally upright and spiritual person will stand by your side during adversity and hardship.  If someone isn’t God-conscience and doesn’t take themselves into account with God then why should you expect them to fulfill their rights owed to you? The ideal partner is someone who considers giving a gain and not causing a loss.  Having a mutual and shared spiritual relationship will foster a successful marriage.  Furthermore, a successful marriage is one that keeps the laws of family purity which require a certain degree of self-control and self-discipline, as well as the belief that the physical side of the relationship includes the spiritual and emotional side as well.  Finding commonality and balance between the spiritual and emotional aspects of a relationship is a strong key to a healthy and thriving marriage.

Study Local atau Overseas?

Hello hello selamat tengah hari selamat siang Assalamualaikum..

Dok tengok kat Facebook kes tweet yang katanya budak overseas ni tahu jalan je kerjenya ye..Aku pun tahu nak berjalan. Tapi duit takdak. Kahkah. Semenjak dapat scholar ni, parents tak bagi duit dah. Kat sini ke, kat Malaysia ke, harus pakai duit sendiri? Tak ke ko nangis. Mane tak habis elaun aku. Ada yang jenis kaya, mak ayah support hidup kat Malaysia time cuti, tak usik elaun. Tapi aku jenis beli barang semua duit sendiri, lagi-lagi ada adik, harus la nak belanja diorang bagai. Mampu krik krik jelah..

Ada pro nya, dan ada kontra nya study overseas ni. Kalau aku, aku pilih untuk study kat Malaysia. Sebab ape? Malaysia best.. Kata aku yang kena duduk study tempat tak best macam India ni lah. Okay, kita tumpukan bab elaun besar, reti nak berjalan, habiskan duit government.

Ye, aku akui elaun banyak. Mula-mula fly dapat USD700. Pastu tahun ni, kerajaan naikkan USD805. Alhamdulillah, syukur. Rezeki. Compare dengan elaun dapat dengan kos hidup kat India ni, memang aku akui ramai dapat simpan duit banyak, tak termasuk aku. Sebab aku ni kureng pandai manage duit. Diorang banyak duit sebab selalu masak, jalan tak banyak. Aku ni ha, sebab duduk sorang, masak tak beria sangat. Tapi stil banyak masak dari makan luar, sebab bukan taste tekak pun.

Pro duduk Overseas:

1. Dapat tengok tempat orang/ jalan-jalan makan angin

Aku tak rase pelik aih diorang nak jalan. Ada yang sampai kerja kot nak simpan duit nak jalan. Kau tak gile ke bila cuti dah penat study, dok terperuk kat bilik, orang pergi tengok tempat-tempat. Memang lah aku pun rasa jeles. Kalau dari India nak pergi Europe, dengan jarak lagi, dengan beza matawang lagi, kena kumpul berbulan-bulan kot duit. Aku tak pelik la kalau diorang nak jalan kat sane pun. Tiket flight tak mahal, pastu diorang dah terbiasa dengan kalau makan sebanyak ni, contoh jumlah die Euro10, tu benda biasa. Kalau aku yang dari India ni, Euro10 nak dekat dengan 700 Rupees, rase nak nangis je bila terkenang boleh makan capati 100 keping sampai pengsan. Hahah..Memang terlebih mampu sangat lah nak guna elaun diorang tu. Abeh, nak simpan duit  pastu nak gi tabur dekat sapa?? Diorang ada hak untuk spend duit la.

Pastu, harus la ambil gambar nak nampak gembira, tempek sebijik dekat Facebook, Instagram, Twitter. Kalau nak riak tu, diorang punya hal lah kan. Ni semua atas niat. Takkan nak post gambar air mate tengah berjurai-jurai depan Big Ben ke, depan Eiffel Tower ke, untuk taknak kasi orang rase jeles. Aku pun jeles weh! Tapi takpe la dorongan kumpul duit, nak merasa jugak kekdahnye.

Kalau kau dapat peluang jugak, menipu sangat lah kau akan simpan duit tak usik je, alasan sebab tu duit rakyat. Kau akan simpan dalam bank, pastu balik Malaysia sedekah dekat rakyat semua ke? Takde punye.

2. Elaun banyak

Betul, elaun banyak. Tapi tengok la kos hidup pula. Dari A-Z kena pakai duit elaun. Dari sewa rumah, bil letrik, bil itu, bil ini, tak kira duit topap telefon nak berjoyah dengan mak pasal hal ehwal semasa dekat kampung lagi. Kan? Kerajaan ni dah bagi elaun, berdasarkan geografi tempat dah, dia dah kaji. Takde nye die terlebih pemurah nak kasi lebih. Orang yang duit banyak tu aku simpulkan sebab dia pandai menyimpan.

Senang cerita, tepuk dada tanya selera. Lain orang lain lifestyle. Macam aku ni dok kira tarikh je bila nak masuk elaun. Hahaha

Eh, kenapa rasa dua je pro study overseas ni? Banyak je lagi kot. Tapi entah la labu..macam tak memberi impak sangat. Kata jadi berdikari la hape la, ada je yang hampeh lagi buat gaya duduk rumah macam ada orang gaji kekdahnya, aku la pulak orang gaji tu. Kahkah. Kidding.

Kontra duduk Overseas :

Ni kalau aku nak list 100 muka surat pun tak habis.

1. Makanan tak best/halal susah

Perasaan rindu kat makanan Malaysia tu, tuhan jelah yang tahu. Kat Malaysia, rasa nak makan je, pergi beli. Ni kat sini, tak pasal-pasal aku reti memasak, membaking, bla3 kembang hidung bla3.

Kat sini, makanan halal takde hal. Kasihan duduk tempat yang majoriti bukan orang Islam.

2. Jauh dengan family kalau ada sebarang mudarat/sakit/kematian

Ni part paling aku risau. Walaupun flight 4 jam je balik Malaysia, tapi tempat aku ulu tahu! 273 kilometer dari Airport. Tak pernah jiwa rasa tenang. Dok fikir kalau jadi apa-apa kat family macam mana. Kalau ada kematian (Nauzubillah), sempat ke aku jumpa? Risau weh, jiwa kacau, lagi-lagi dengan ada ayah yang tak berapa nak sihat.

3. Kena adapt dengan gaya hidup/bahasa tempat yang kita duduk

Masalah Islamophobia, racist, tak pernah selesai. Aku duduk India ni, di racistkan jugak, oleh budak-budak jeles yang rasa kitorang tak layak masuk medical school, sebab masuk pakai bayaran, walhal mereka kena bersusah payah ambil entrance exam untuk dapat seat. Hello, mana aku tahu. Universiti ko open tempat untuk kitorang kot, dengan bayaran, dah kejadah apa aku nak kena rasai bersusah payah macam kau jugak? Ingat kitorang senang ke nak fly? Buat preparation A Level dulu bagai bak rak ok? Kalau tak lepas point, takleh fly.

Mujur sini takde kes Islamophobia sangat, tapi takut jugak time ada riot yang berbaur perkauman, terutama antara Islam dan Hindu kat sini. Sampai polis kena jaga depan hostel kitorang.

Hal racist, terutama sekali time exam. Walau kau hebat, belum tentu dia nak bagi pass pun. Banyak je examiner yang tak suka dengan Malaysian, ingat kitorang masuk medical college dengan cara senang.

Eh kejap, chop chop! Kalau ambil kesempatan kat bangsa luar dari dia ni kira racist jugak tak? Kitorang ni asyik kena pow je, kena charge lebih, sebab diorang tahu kitorang dapat elaun. Tapi sakit hati tu lagi banyak la duduk sini oi. Ingat elaun ni nak kasi kau je ke? Tak pasal-pasal aku pulak jadi racist.

Hal bahasa, ya Rabbi, aku mampu mengucap aje. Kami ni tak didedahkan dengan program belajar bahasa pun. JPA ada. Dengan datang sini tak paham sepatah habuk, kitorang ambil inisiatif upah orang local mengajar bahasa, tu pun sekerat jalan sebab cikgu tu sakit. Seksa weh belajar bahasa sini, Bahasa Kannada, yang aku dulu tak pernah tahu pun wujud bahasa ni. Ok, aku salahkan effort aku, sebab tak usaha sungguh-sungguh. Tapi betapa susah nak cakap dengan orang sini, bila kau belajar pun, satu kau tanya, seribu patah dia jawab sebab ingat kau faham. Mampu angguk dan sengih macam kerang busuk je tanda setuju. Sah sah sah...Kikiki

Tak kurang juga family patient nak marah, sebab kita tak faham..hmm sedih..mengamuk macam nak bertumbuk sampai.

4. Cuti perayaan untuk bersama keluarga tiada.

Kat tempat aku, ada lah cuti Raya Aidilfitri, sehari. Nak balik pun fikir sejuta kali, dengan kelas nya. Pastu aku ni dah start internship. Jenuh juga nak fikir kalau minta cuti nanti kena ganti. Adalah bersyukur duduk Malaysia cuti raya dapat bersama family, ada cuti selama sekian-sekian.

Kami? Tak duduk jauh tak rasa weh. Rindu pulut lemang karipap cincau kat Malaysia. Makanan je keje aku ni..haha


Camtu lah kami yang duduk jauh ni sebenar. Yang kat Malaysia, nak berada kat tempat kami. Kami pulak nak berada kat tempat mereka. Biasa lah, manusia mana yang pernah puas dengan hidup dia, termasuk aku lah. Apa-apa pun, peluang tu sentiasa ada.

Aku berangan jugak nak main selji. Mak aku kate takpe lah ko duduk Yindia berpanas-panas, nanti ko rajin ko sambung la setadi kat tempat lain pulak. Ye dak?

Kat Malaysia aku bersyukur peluang pendidikan tu ada, walau tak percuma, kalau bandingkan dengan sini, sangat susah untuk dapat biasiswa, duit yuran kolej tu bayar sendiri. Kalau nak baiki status keluarga tu susah, Aku syukur masih diberi peluang. Alhamdulillah

Life In India

Assalamualaikum. Berhabuk dah blog. Rasa kemalasan melanda. Sebab sekarang stress banyak kerja. Balik pun tidur je.

FYI saya adalah di India.. huehuehue tak best kan?? Rasa nak nangis pun ada mengenangkan nasib dapat tempat macam ni. Tak pernah imagine hidup dapat belajar kat tempat ni. Dulu-dulu cita-cita nak belajar kat overseas, UK ke, US ke, Australia ke, tak pernah pun mention INDIA. Sekali memang overseas betul la. Rentas satu sea je padahal. Lautan Hindi..kahkah.

Tempat ini ulu gila. Flight dari Kuala Lumpur ke Bengaluru (ibu negeri Karnataka) mengambil masa 4 jam, dari airport ke tempat belajar ni mengambil masa 6 jam lebih. Stress kan? Dulu time first fly dulu jalan tak siap lagi. Memang sakit jantung la nak sampai sini dari airport. Macam naik fun fair. Bas pulak naik hazab nya tahap macam bas mini dulu. Siap ada sekali break ( diorang memang habit break mengejut, satu inci lagi nak terlanggar kereta ke lori depan ke, bonggol ke, baru nak break ), tiba-tiba pintu bas terbuka. Dah la duduk paling depan dekat pintu. Memang kussssssssssss....

Ini bukan mainan, ada sorang kawan tu, dia travel la nak balik tempat ni, kereta yang dia sewa break mengejut juga. Tersembam dia. Retak rahang ok. Memang hazab la tempat ni.

Ok pendekkan cerita, jumlah tempoh pengajian adalah 5 tahun setengah. Saya ada kurang setahun lagi sini. Sini  4 tahun setengah belajar, 1 tahun internship yang sama dengan taraf housman Malaysia. Tapi dapat title Doctor official from Karnataka Medical Council saja, not from Malaysia.

Sekarang hidup sebagai intern kat sini penuh cabaran. Macam-macam ragam manusia, cikgu kejam. co-intern pemalas, masalah bahasa. Walau dah duduk lama, masih failed nak cakap bahasa sini. Sini pakai bahasa Kannada. Kalau bahasa Tamil harus ku belajar bersungguh-sungguh. Balik Malaysia boleh faham kalau orang India kat Malaysia mengumpat kita. Kan?? Hehe gurau je.

Enjoy aja la gambar merepek kat sini...

The only thing that entertains me.. dapat assist surgery

Post Grad students

merong

lipat plaster of paris..macam nak buat tarian je ha

pasang slab kat patient

merepek lagi

hehe..with my best friend

sebab nampak kurus skit, maka ambil la..hahaha

ni lah kegunaan monopod. naik motor snap2 gambar. Kalau kat Malaysia mampuih kene langgar..hahaha

Itu saja...

Sekian.

8 Suami???

Hehe ni dok kecoh-kecoh orang kata sedap cerita 7 suami kan kat Malaysia? Tak tengok pun cerita tu tapi kawan dok cerita-cerita.

Kenapa tajuk 8 suami? Teringat kisah moyang saudara ( adik moyang yang dah umur dekat 90 dah) pasal kisah perkahwinan dia sampai 8 kali. Memang champion la dia tu. Kira hot la kot zaman dulu kawin ramai. Eh?? Haha..

Moyang sedara ni, yang ku panggil Tok Su, kahwin time umur 12 tahun lagi. Muda kan? La ni semua dok pakat busy study untuk UPSR yang bocor je. Perkahwinan pertama dia tu, bertahan ada la beberapa minggu. Al kisahnya, pada suatu hari, Tok Su dan suami main kejar-kejar. Si suami ni mengelat la kira, Tok Su bengang, mintak cerai terus. Hahahha..terpinga-pinga jugak time dia cerita ni. Biar betul? Tok Su cakap betul la...aku bekeng tau!

*pengsan gelak.

ok tipu pengsan..eheh

Ada perkahwinan ke berapa entah..ke 4 kut. Lakinya mengaku kaya, apa lagi, nikah la laju-laju. Kemain katanya poket tebal berkepuk dengan duit. Malam kahwin tu, si suami nya sangkut la baju coat yang pakai siang tu untuk nikah. Kaya kan...harus la pakai coat zaman tu. Toksu ni pulak ternampak semut dok pakat hurung pergi arah baju tu. Dia pergi cek rupanya bukan duit, tapi ape bende ntah dia pergi susun-susun jadi bertindan dan nampak macam duit. Tak ingat istilah tu dalam bahasa Kelantan dia cerita. Malam tu terus mintak cerai..hehe. Baru berapa jam kahwin.

Macam-macam la.

Nasib zaman dulu macam nikah cerai ni simple je. Kalau zaman sekarang, hazab la turun naik mahkamah je Tok Su ni. Mesti pakai spek besar macam lalat, silang selendang, kan? Tok Su kan rock! Hahaha

Saturday & November

Assalamualaikum..Salam hari minggu dan November.

Fuhh fuhh...akhirnya ada juga cuti. Harini hari cuci OT, maka dapat cuti, esok Ahad pun cuti, anaes tak kerja hari Ahad. Best juga posting anaes ni..hahha

Harini terbangkit awal pula terbiasa kerja, memang cita-cita nak makan nasi lemak lama dah. Dan bercadang nak buat jualan juga, nak cari duit lebih. Budak Malaysia kat sini pantang je ada jual makanan Malaysia, laju aje diorang rembat. Market ada la.

So, harini test buat nasi lemak dan bubuh dalam bekas.

Jom tengok gambar-gambar tak seberapa..zasss. Ni contoh dalam bekas kecil, cadang-cadang nak jual RM3.50 (70 rupee) .. tapi tak boleh nak agak lagi modal berapa, sebab pakai barang yang dah ada.

blender ku rosak.... T_T gigih potong bawang

Hasil propa bubuh dalam bekas..haha

Sini takde kertas bungkus macam coklat tu, lagi murah kot. Ni kena pakai bekas aluminium. Ok ke idakkk...hahhaa

Ok nak keluar beli barang~

Bai,

Love,

Si Mistik

Kempunan Cheese Cake!

Harini tetiba nak makan cheese cake. Nak buat betul-betul, oven takda, cream cheese pun macam tak wujud aje kat sini.

Tadi pergi la kedai macam supermarket kat sini.

Terjumpa nih!

Ku godek dan godek ikut arahan..

Maka hasilnya...jengjeng..............

Sedih......................hahahha